Self sabotage often begins with the words we use daily. Our inner dialogue can significantly impact our mindset and actions. The words we choose matter so much; they can build us up or break us down. 

We have all heard the phrase:

“Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.”

If you have ever been at the receiving end of verbal abuse at any level, you will know that phrase is absolute rubbish. Words can hurt. But it’s not just the words that other people say to us, it’s the words that you are saying to yourself that will be impacting your personal and business success.

Words are more than just a way to communicate; they shape our reality. They influence how we perceive ourselves, how we interact with others, and ultimately, how we navigate through our personal and business lives. Here’s a deeper look into the extraordinary impact of words:

1/ Words Reflect Beliefs.

What we say out loud often mirrors our internal beliefs. These spoken words can reveal our underlying thought patterns and attitudes. For example:

– If you constantly say, “I’m not good at this,” you’re reinforcing a belief that you lack ability.

– Statements like “I always mess things up” can cement a belief in your incompetence, leading to repeated failures.

2/ Language Influences Emotions.

Negative language can trigger negative emotions, which in turn affect our actions and outcomes. Consider these scenarios:

– Phrases like “I can’t” or “I should have” lead to feelings of guilt and inadequacy which negatively impact our mindset..

– Describing yourself as “lazy” or “stupid” can make you feel discouraged and hopeless, impacting your motivation and productivity.

3/ Self-Fulfilling Prophecies

Repeatedly telling yourself you’re going to fail can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you believe it, you’re more likely to act in ways that lead to failure. For instance:

– If you go into a task thinking, “I will fail,” you might not put in your best effort, subconsciously sabotaging your success.

– Conversely, believing in your success can propel you to take proactive steps towards achieving it.

The Science Behind Words

The influence of words on our mindset and behaviour is backed by science. Research shows that:

– Our brains are wired to adapt and change based on our thoughts and experiences – this is known as neuroplasticity. Positive language can help rewire our brain towards more optimistic and proactive patterns so you become a solution finder rather than a problem finder.

– The language we use affects our emotional regulation. Positive self-talk can reduce stress and anxiety, while negative self-talk can exacerbate these feelings.

To shift your mindset, start by transforming your language. Here are some practical strategies to get you started:

  1. Replace negative statements with positive affirmations. 
  2. Use language that focuses on gratitude. This shifts your perspective from what’s lacking to what’s abundant, fostering a positive mindset.
  3. Ask yourself empowering questions to reframe challenges and setbacks in a constructive way.
  4. Transforming your language requires consistent practice. This may come in the form of daily positive affirmations to start the day or writing down the 5 things you’re grateful for at the end of the day.

In conclusion…

Changing your language is a powerful step towards overcoming self sabotage. By consciously choosing words that uplift and empower, you set a positive tone for your actions and mindset. Remember, the words you use create your reality. By transforming your inner dialogue, you can break free from self sabotaging patterns and cultivate a mindset that supports your growth and success.

I invite you to start today. Choose words that reflect your potential, foster positive emotions, and pave the way for a brighter, more empowered and more successful future for your life and business. 

Until next time,

Best wishes

Philippa x