It’s tempting to either cling too tightly to money or neglect it altogether. But just like any relationship, money requires balance, attention, and the right mindset. How you treat money reflects in how it shows up (or doesn’t) in your life and business.

If you hold on too tight, you’ll strangle it. If you ignore it, it’ll wander off. And if you chase it desperately, it’ll run away. The way you think about and interact with money will directly impact how abundant (or scarce) it feels in your business.

So how do you build a respectful, balanced relationship with money? You need to understand the following:

1. Hold on Too Tight, and You Strangle It.

A lot of business owners operate from a place of fear when it comes to money. You might worry about running out, so you hold onto every penny, afraid to invest in tools, marketing, or even your own wellbeing. But when you grip money too tightly, you’re sending a message that there isn’t enough to go around. This scarcity mindset limits the flow of money into your business.

Imagine trying to hang onto water by squeezing it tightly in your hand. What happens? It slips right through your fingers. Money works the same way. To attract more, you need to loosen your grip, trust the process, and allow it to flow in and out of your business naturally.

2. Ignore It, and It Wanders Off.

On the flip side, ignoring money can be just as damaging. Some fitness and wellbeing business owners avoid looking at their finances altogether. Maybe it feels overwhelming, or maybe you’re not comfortable with numbers. But here’s the thing – money, like anything, needs attention. If you don’t keep track of where it’s coming from or where it’s going, it’ll quietly slip away, leaving you wondering where it all went.

To build a healthy relationship with money, you need to pay attention to it. Track your income, your expenses, and set financial goals. This doesn’t mean obsessing over every detail, but it does mean being intentional about your money and showing it the respect it deserves.

3. Chase It, and It Runs Away.

Desperation is a quick way to repel money. When you’re constantly chasing after clients, offering discounts because you’re scared they’ll walk away, or taking on work that doesn’t align with your values just to make ends meet, you’re operating from a place of fear and lack. The desperation stench will be coming off you like ripe pig’s manure and clients can smell that. The clients and their money basically run away from you. I’m sure we’ve all been to a social gathering and we just know which people we don’t want to spend time with – you can sense their energy isn’t right so you steer clear of them. Perhaps you “chased” after someone as a teenager – that unrequited love who the more you chased after them the faster they ran away. Desperation energy never ends with the outcome we want. 

Instead of chasing money, focus on attracting it by providing value and operating with confidence. When you trust that the right clients will come and that there’s plenty of money to go around, you create an energy of abundance that draws people to you.

4. Label It, and That’s What You Manifest.

This one’s a bit more subtle but still powerful. The way you label your money affects what you manifest in your life and business. For example, if you create a “rainy day fund,” you’re essentially preparing for a rainy day and you might just find yourself experiencing more financial storms than you’d like. The words and labels you use around money matter.

Try shifting your language. Instead of a “rainy day fund,” think of it as a “growth fund” or “opportunity fund.” This slight shift in perspective can have a big impact on the energy surrounding your money.

 

In Conclusion…

Building a respectful relationship with money is about finding balance. Don’t strangle it by holding on too tight, but also don’t let it slip away through neglect. Pay attention to your money, use it wisely, and trust that when you treat it with respect, it will return the favour. 

 

Until next time,

Best wishes

Philippa x